What lies beneath..

What lies beneath..

As a very young woman, I trained and worked as an actress. I still act, but these days for pleasure and not for money. But play-acting has taught me so many life lessons and also lessons that I can generalize to my Coaching practice. A play text is sparse. As an actor, when presented with a text, you see only the words the characters speak plus a few sparse stage directions. Characters say and do sometimes-inexplicable things and little context...

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Part 1 of a series on parenting – Butterflies and Roses

Part 1 of a series on parenting – Butterflies and Roses

As a young parent, we are often tempted to compare the development and achievements of our children with that of their peers. Sometimes we coax and cajole them to do better, achieve more, attain it faster.. Who of us has not experienced impatience with the struggle of an unaccomplished child, and felt the temptation to take the difficult task out of their hands and finish it off on their behalf? In his book Zorba the Greek, Nikos Kazantzakis...

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Part 2 of a series on parenting – Oh baby, baby, it’s a wild world..

Part 2 of a series on parenting – Oh baby, baby, it’s a wild world..

So how do we prepare our children for a wild, wild world? The other day I noticed a mother stopping her little boy from climbing a tree because it was “dangerous”. She was worried he’d fall out and break an arm, and she had to pull a wailing child away from the tree he was so desperate to climb. Functional parents want their children to be both safe and happy. But does keeping a child completely safe make them happy? Clearly not in this case!...

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Part 4 of a series on weight loss – Joyful eating and the wisdom of the body

Part 4 of a series on weight loss – Joyful eating and the wisdom of the body

Eating is one of the pleasures of life. The problem with diets is that they negate this essential aspect of our relationship with food, which we eat for joy as well as for nourishment. Putting a string of embargoes on what we may and may not eat saps the pleasure from eating, and encrusts our relationship with food with guilt. It can get to a point where we never put a thing in our mouths without first evaluating it as either ‘good’ or ‘bad’....

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Girls behaving badly

Girls behaving badly

We don’t need to be perfect. The artist Salvador Dali famously said, Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it. I was recently asked to offer specialized commentary on an online publication’s feature on “Bad girls” in society, in this case, women who behave “badly” to snare a man. But as part of the research I was asked whether I thought all women behave badly – and asked my opinion on how a “lady” should behave? My first thought was...

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